In photos, she stops folding herself away. No arms locked across her middle, no shoulder tucked behind a friend, no chin dipped like she is trying to slip out of the frame.

Now she stands where the light is better. One knee angled, hip settled, hand resting exactly where it looks good. At dinner, she takes the chair facing the room instead of the one against the wall. If someone notices, she does not scramble to rearrange herself.

Nothing about it has to be loud. That is the irritating part for anyone watching. She looks comfortable taking up the space she used to give back.